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Wednesday, March 30, 2011 3:45 PM

Family dynamics

Wednesday, March 30, 2011 3:45 PM
Wednesday, March 30, 2011 3:45 PM

My husbands family was estranged from us for over 5 years. Recently a meeting was called by his mother to discuss issues in hopes of restoration. At the meeting his mother admitted she intentionally did things to hurt us because she herself had lots of bitterness and unforgiveness that she had not dealt with, but no apologies or asking for forgiveness took place. At the same meeting my husband's sisters were either laughing, mocking, rolling of eyes or making excuses for their actions. Besides his mother, I don't feel like there was a change or sincerity in their persona. I told his family that I would like respect and boundaries when it came to our marriage. After many years of taking various classes here at Legacy I have forgiven them all for almost destroying our marriage. Since the meeting they have been calling frequently wanting to talk and get together. Because of what we've been through I'm extremely leery and uncomfortable with the idea of constant visitation with them since both my husband and I still saw attitudes of malice and deceit when we last saw them. My thought in the matter is to be civil and cordial when they call or when I do see them, but I prefer to keep my distance to avoid future issues. My husband verbally agrees with my suggestions; however, I feel that he would like more than that. It's something I'm open to in the future, based on how I feel their actions are. What biblical advice can you offer us for a healthy marriage? _______________________________________________________ The Bible esteems marriage and it is a lifelong lasting covenant between a man and a woman. You and your husband being in agreement on decisions you make regarding your family is important. Matthew 18:18-19 tells us the power we have in the Lord when 2 or more agree in prayer. A healthy marriage requires that God is the center and both spouses are following Gods directions for marriage and how to treat others.

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