I'm a stay at home mom and my husband tells me I need to get a job to help with bills. In my opinion its his responsibility not mine. Mine is to nurture and take car of our daughter. What does the Bible say about the man being the breadwinner and providing for his family? Should a wife also help provide?
This is an issue that the two of you should have talked about and settled before even getting married. Finances and communication are the #1 and 2 killers of marriages. That's why it is important to do some pre-marriage classes before getting married. Now there's a ton of other questions. How messed up are your finances? What would it take to get them straightened out? Does your husband want you to help with finances so you can have lots of "toys" or so you can get yourself out of debt? Where can you cut back in your expenses to make it possible for you to stay at home?
Do I think that the best of all worlds is for the woman to stay home with the children? Absolutely. Any woman can tell you that it is a full time job in itself. Do I know that we have to live with the consequences of bad decisions? You bet. Now you and your husband have to spend time with God and with each other talking and listening to each other to find out what the best solution is. See if you can put aside your own individual desires and figure out what is best for your family. I also know that the Proverbs 31 woman was industrious and had some income coming in, it just didn't hinder her relationship and nurturing of her family.
Two recommendations: Marriage Enrichment class, so you can learn to better communicate and David Ramsey's Financial Peace University class. Both classes are offered here at Legacy. To find out the times visit www.lifeatlegacy.com/classes or call the church office.
Published on Wednesday, February 2, 2011 @ 5:37 PM CDT