SUNDAY, APRIL 10, 2011
"Isaac...loved Esau, but Rebekah loved Jacob." Ge 25:28 NIV
Parental rejection drives children to two extremes: (1) Rebellion. They rebel out of their need for acceptance. Esau understood the principle of parentally approved marriage. But he expressed his resentment against a scheming mother who failed to love him and helped cheat him out of his inheritance, and against an unloving father, by rebelling against the laws of God and family, and marrying unapproved women (See Ge 26:34). Perhaps Esau felt some perverse satisfaction when his mother was "disgusted with living because of [Esau's] Hittite women" (Ge 27:46 NIV). When our kids quit school, run away, get pregnant, abandon church, do drugs, consume alcohol, engage in illicit sex, and marry disastrously, in many cases, it's saying, "I'll show you!" (2) Compliance. Esau's rebellion didn't win Mom's love, so he tried the opposite technique with Dad, hoping that doing it Dad's way might make him loved. Recognizing Dad's approval of Jacob's marital choice, "Esau...realized how displeasing the Canaanite women were to his father Isaac...married Mahalath," Abraham's granddaughter, but, alas, also Ishmael's daughter (Ge 28:8-9 NIV). A child at any age will do anything, however irrational or self-destructive, to earn and keep the love of parents! Did it work? No! Nothing he did could make his dad love him. The real problem was a self-centered parent who loved when it benefited him! Certainly, Jacob and Esau were adults, responsible for their own choices. But parents are like potters, with the power to mold their child's character, conduct, convictions, and course of life. Parent, nothing matters more to your children lifelong than your unconditional love for them!
Published on Sunday, April 10, 2011 @ 6:38 AM CDT